- Challenge stereotypes of bisexuality which propose that bisexual people are “promiscuous”, “going through a phase” and/or “cannot make up their mind”. These stereotypes exist in both queer and straight social circles, and demean bisexuality as a valid identity. Sexuality is fluid. Sexuality evolves and changes over a person’s lifetime. An individual’s’ sexual or romantic preference is for them and them only to define.
- Recognise a bisexual persons’ queerness is unquestionable, regardless of who they are in a relationship with. If a bisexual person is in a relationship with someone of the “opposite gender”, their queerness remains valid.
- Understand bisexuality is not adherent to binary notions of gender. Bisexual people may be attracted to two or more genders.
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Now you have started your unlearning journey, keep going! The LGBTQIA* community is abundant with colourful, intersecting identities. What do you know about the intersex community? What are your assumptions about asexuality? Do you know what it means to be takatāpui? How does Aotearoa’s history of colonisation inform how we conceive of gender and sexuality today? Here are some links below to keep learning, unlearning and relearning!
Other links and resources
Takatapui – Part of the Whanau resource by Elizabeth Kerekere
Growing up Takatāpui: Whānau journeys by Elizabeth Kerekere and Rainbow Youth
Strengthening Solutions for Pasefika Rainbow
Decolonising Queer* Identities, an essay by Isabel Mudford
The Pain & Empowerment of Choosing Your Own Gender: Alok Vaid-Menon
Understanding Asexuality from the Outside
I’m Intersex, And It’s WAY More Common Than You Think
Colouring The Rainbow: Blak Queer and Trans Perspectives – Life Stories and Essays By First Nations People of Australia, a book by Dino Hodge
*Cisgender (often abbreviated to simply cis) is a term for people whose gender identity matches the sex that they were assigned at birth. Cisgender may also be defined as those who have “a gender identity or perform a gender role society considers appropriate for one’s sex”. It is the opposite of the term transgender.
*LGBTQIA+ = Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender, Queer/Questioning, Intersex, Asexual and other identities
We used some stats on our ‘UNLEARN’ posters, you can check out our references here